We can taste nirvana during daily life as we practice mindful reponses to pain and pleasure.
Category Archives: Behavior Change
Disputing and Defusion: Two Options for Dealing With Upsetting Thoughts
Misery is often tied to irrational and judgmental thoughts. We can use logic to replace these thoughts—or simply detach from them. Both approaches can help.
Conversation as Win-Win: David Bohm on Dialogue
The aim of dialogue is not for everyone to finish up and leave the room with the same opinion. Far more important is our shared state of mind. When everyone suspends their assumptions and opinions, we share a common consciousness.
Testing Your Practices in the Fire of Suffering
What helps me: asking better questions, returning to the present moment, and remembering the Serenity Prayer.
Three Books That Changed My Life
Surprisingly, it’s often possible to reduce a 50,000- or 100,000-word book to a single page or paragraph of pure power. That’s enough to capture the essence that matters to you.
Don’t Boost Motivation: Just Ride the Wave
When your motivation is low, says psychologist BJ Fogg, go for easy behaviors. When motivation is high, do harder things.
‘Every Moment is Fresh’ and More Slogans for Constructive Living
Slogans can be powerful tools for immediately refocusing our attention and changing our behavior.
Pay Attention and Act Purposefully—the Heart of Constructive Living
Thoughts come and go. Feelings arise and fade. But none of them need to stop you from living a life based on your values.
BJ Fogg on the Myths of Habit Change—and a Method That Actually Works
This psychologist urges us to scale down our grandiose plans for behavior change, start with small changes that scale up over time, and celebrate success at every step.
Wear the World Like a Loose Garment
There’s a peace that comes to pass when we let go of our absolute and irrational demands.
DOUG TOFT 